Are You Inadvertently Being a Jerk?
I used to work in downtown San Francisco, and tourists would sometimes point in a direction and ask me, “Is Fisherman’s Wharf that way?”
Now, I could’ve simply answered “yes” — and technically, I’d have been telling the truth — but only a jerk would look them in the eye and not add the critical information: “–but it’s a long hilly walk from here; you’ll want to take the bus or cable car.”
But when we are not interacting face-to-face, we (inadvertently) become jerks.
We forget that there are actual people on the other side of the screen. We forget that omitting extra information or warnings will have consequences for these people. We will waste their time. We will make them late. We will induce stress and frustration.
When your emails or site or app asks someone a question or prompts them to do something, are you inadvertently being a jerk?
Probably, but don’t feel too badly — let’s blame it on the curse of knowledge and move on to how to fix it.
Look at what you’ve written / your call-to-action / your request / your invitation, and ask yourself:
- What will this person do next? (Can I make it easier for them?)
- What might go wrong? (Can I warn them?)
- What will this person be curious about? (Can I share some information with them?)
What will this person do next? Can I make it easier for them?
- Before: “Have you installed X software on your computer?”
- After: “Have you tried X software? You can download from [URL]“
- Avoids: making them do extra work, having them put off this task because they have to stop and think about something.
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- Before: “Can we interview you about your Z needs?”
- After: “Can we interview you about your Z needs? Here are some available times…” or “Can we interview you about your Z needs? If so, you can schedule any convenient time on my calendar here”
- Avoids: back-and-forth email chain trying to find mutually-available times, possibly resulting in no interview ever being scheduled
What might go wrong? Can I warn them?
- Before: “Join our webinar at 1pm PST at [URL]“
- After: “Join our webinar at 1pm PST at [URL]. If you haven’t previously attended one of our webinars, you’ll probably want to arrive 5 minutes early so you can install the required Java applet.”
- Avoids: the frustration of arriving at 12:59pm only to realize you still needed to install software, possibly resulting in them deciding to skip it altogether
What will this person be curious about? Can I share information with them?
- Before: “Thank you for helping us revise our interview questions.”
- After: “Thank you for helping us revise our interview questions. I wrote a blog post about how our interview experience went and the conclusions we drew.”
- Avoids: the person wondering if they wasted their time, possibly resulting in them not doing favors for you in the future.
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